Should I offer a referral fee in the email?

Only if that's already how you work and it won't make them look mercenary. Many operators prefer a clean intro. If you do mention a fee, keep it secondary to why the intro helps the other person. Name the stall they care about, offer one small next step, and stop before the thread feels like a sequence.

Is it weird to email someone after six months of silence?

Not if you have a new reason and you don't pretend the old thread is still warm. Lead with the trigger, remind them who you are in one line, and make the ask optional. Nostalgia without news is just another cold email with extra steps.

Is it okay to send this referral request on LinkedIn instead of email?

Yes if this HR director is actually active there and the thread isn't about long attachments. Keep the LinkedIn version even shorter. Don't paste the full email. One context line and one question is plenty. Name the stall they care about, offer one small next step, and stop before the thread feels like a sequence.

What should I never say in a Hospitality referral request?

Don't call guests 'users.' They're guests. Treating employees like a funnel or joking about culture. Don't open with 'it's been a while' and then paste the old pitch. Those three mistakes show up constantly in Hospitality inboxes and they all read as "this was templated."

What's a good hospitality follow-up that isn't a review request?

A specific thank-you, a useful local note, a missing-item check, or a direct-book offer for a return stay. Review asks work better after you've been helpful, not as the only reason you wrote. Name the stall they care about, offer one small next step, and stop before the thread feels like a sequence.

Hospitality · HR Director · Long Time No Contact

Referral Request for Hospitality HR Director: Long Time No…

A referral request email asks someone to make an intro by doing the work for them: who, why, and a forwardable blurb. For Hospitality teams, the version that works for long time no contact has to respect Don't email during Saturday check-in chaos and expect a thoughtful reply. Write to the HR director like they already have a full calendar

Last updated: 2026-09-02 · Reviewed by: Sales Email Template editors

We write templates the way we wrote emails on quota: short, specific, and easy to forward. When we cite research below, it is because the number changes how a buyer reads your note, not to pad the page.

Sources: HubSpot sales email benchmarks; Gong follow-up research

Why does this referral request work for a Hospitality HR Director?

Explain why they'd look good for making the intro.
Speaks to direct bookings leaking to OTAs and follow-up that ignores seasonality instead of a generic "value prop."
Fits how a HR director actually reads: Keep it human and under 100 words.
Bring a new observation about their world, then offer a small, optional next step.
Include a forwardable paragraph.

When should I send this to a Hospitality HR Director?

Ask after you've given them a reason to want to help, not after the first coffee. Send when you have a real trigger: news, a useful artifact, a role change, a season. For this combo, treat "Only when you have a trigger" as the default, then adjust around seasonality is the calendar. a great idea in july may be noise in december, or the reverse. If you're emailing a HR director, Keep it human and under 100 words.

What this HR Director actually cares about

A HR director in Hospitality is protecting people, policy, and the company's legal exposure. They screen for risk, employee experience, and whether you'll create a mess for managers. Confidentiality isn't a buzzword to them. The hook that earns a look is hiring drag, manager load, or a process that candidates complain about. The ask should stay at this size: a conversation about one process, not access to their whole org chart. Delete trigger: Treating employees like a funnel or joking about culture. They protect people, policy, and the company's legal exposure, so keep the ask at "a conversation about one process, not access to their whole org chart."

How Hospitality changes the note

Hospitality buyers are GMs, revenue managers, and owners balancing occupancy, labor, and reviews. Don't email during Saturday check-in chaos and expect a thoughtful reply. Be useful on weekday mornings. A credible proof point in this vertical sounds like: moved 9 points of mix from OTA to direct with post-stay follow-up that didn't beg. Watch the language. Words that land here include RevPAR, occupancy, OTA, group block, shoulder season, ADR. If you cannot name a shoulder-season slump, a renovation, or a review spiral, wait until you can. If you cannot name a shoulder-season slump, a renovation, or a review spiral, wait until you can.

How should I customize this template before I send it?

Replace the pain line with a boutique hotel whose guest follow-up is still a TripAdvisor plea.
Keep the tone calm, respectful, concrete.
Never send a referral ask from a brand-new relationship.
Time it for Only when you have a trigger. Send when you have a real trigger: news, a useful artifact, a role change, a season.
Don't call guests 'users.' They're guests.

What mistakes should I avoid with this long time no contact note?

Asking 'who do you know?' is lazy and gets no names.
Don't open with 'it's been a while' and then paste the old pitch.
Don't call guests 'users.' They're guests.
Treating employees like a funnel or joking about culture.

How does this long time no contact scenario compare?

Dimension	For this template
Best send window	Only when you have a trigger
Ideal length	Keep it human and under 100 words.
Primary ask	a conversation about one process, not access to their whole org chart
Industry metric to cite	occupancy, RevPAR, and direct-booking mix
Tone	Calm, respectful, concrete. No 'ninja recruiter' energy.
Unlike no response	This isn't a 4-day bump. It's a re-introduction with a new reason.
Unlike breakup	You're opening a door, not closing one. Still keep it easy to ignore.

What should I copy and send?

Copy-ready template

Subject

[Company Name] / occupancy

Body

Hi [First Name],

This is an ask. I tried to make it easy to say no.

The version of this that matters for GMs, revenue managers, and owners balancing occupancy, labor, and reviews is moved 9 points of mix from OTA to direct with post-stay follow-up that didn't beg. If now is a bad time, don't spend political capital on this.

Re-earn a conversation, not restart a stale sequence at email 4.

Thanks either way. I know intros cost you something.

Best,
[Your Name]
[Your Title]
[Your Company]

Questions people ask before they hit send

Ask after you've given them a reason to want to help, not after the first coffee. Send when you have a real trigger: news, a useful artifact, a role change, a season. After that, send a breakup note and archive it. A HR director who wants it will answer a clean close more often than a fifth bump.

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